What I Didn't Know About Blogging Part Five

Friday, 28 April 2017

How does one make friends online? Can one make friends online? Are people mean? Are people inclusive?

The answers are: see this blog post, if you're willing to put in the effort, sometimes, and sometimes.

I can't believe I forgot about this series, but I saw this post in my drafts, and now I think it's time I finally finish it + email everyone who wanted to do a guest post to see if they're still up for it! (Maybe fill out the form again even if you already did because it's been so long??)

Anyway, let's get down to business.

How does one make friends online?

Honestly, there is no right answer. There are so many ways you can make friends online that I don't think I could cover them all in this post. However, here are some ways to make friends online;
  • Get a Twitter account, and join in on book community chats such as:
    • #BHPChat
    • #BBTC (Shout out to the amazing Brittany who runs this chat, and is super nice if you ever need a friend. I'm also there occasionally whenever I can!!)
    • #FairyChat 
    • #OwlChat
    • #RQWN (I've met a lot of people during these chats!)
  • Follow, read, and comment on other new and up-and-coming blogs.
  • Join Bookstagram, and compliment people on their photos.
  • Be open to talking to new people online in general!
  • Interact with people in the comments section of your blog.
  • Read, and write fanfic, and connect with your readers/the authors of the fanfic you like.
  • Join Tumblr, and get sucked into a world full of fan art, fanfic, fandoms, etc.
  • Join fandoms (do not recommend this as much because some fandoms are full of awful people who are toxic, and whom you shouldn't be friends with).
Can you make friends online?/Do those suggestions above really work?


Yes! I've met so many people online who I would consider to be my friends, and we have amazing conversations. So yes, you can absolutely make friends online.

And yes, I can tell you those tips above do really work. (Obviously they will not work for everyone, but I do believe they will work for the majority.)

Are people mean?

Some people, yes. After all, the internet is filled with trolls.

However, most people are super nice, and I'm always here if you ever want to be friends. :)

Are people inclusive?

For sure! If you join one of the book chats, everyone comments on everyone's tweets, and you'll be welcomed regardless of how many people you've previously befriended.

I hope this helps in some way, shape, or form. I'm just happy this series is getting revived on my blog because apparently I started writing this post in October 2015, and now it's April 2017.

(Also, if any other bloggers want to do a guest post about this, fill out this handy form please: http://goo.gl/forms/ukHU6cfggI)

ACOWAR Inspired Makeup Tutorial

I've been in the biggest blogging slump for the past few months, but I'm back now with a new book inspired makeup tutorial because ACOWAR comes out this Tuesday. 

So this is the cover of A Court of Wings and Ruin. 



It's so beautiful I could cry. That's why I wanted it on my face. Enjoy!

What you'll need is whatever basic skin perfecting things you use (so like foundation, concealer, etc.), eyeshadow (I used shades from the Naked palette by Urban Decay, and the Kat Von D Shade + Light Eye palette for this look), a nude-ish blush, highlighter, and a terracotta nude liquid lipstick (I used Lolita from Kat Von D/my fav liquid lippie).

Step One:
Prep your skin for the fun part by using foundation, concealer, etc. 


Step Two:
Put an eyeshadow primer on because we want this to last all day while we binge read all 696 pages of ACOWAR. 



Step Three:
Put a translation colour that works for your skin tone in your crease, and blend. 



Step Four:
Put a mix of dark green, and black in your crease + outer corner, and blend. 


Step Five:
Take a cream shadow, and place it all over your lid.


Step Six:
Put gold eyeshadow all over your lid, and blend it into the dark green on the outer corner. 


Step Seven: 
Put grey eyeshadow on your lower lash-line, and charcoal eyeliner on your waterline to match Feyre's grey dress. Also put some of that cream eyeshadow on your brow-bone to clean everything up a bit, and a light gold shade in the inner corner to lighten things up. 


Step Eight:
My favourite part: EYELINER!! You want a nice cat eye with a bold wing just like the Illyrian soldiers. 


Step Nine:
The easiest step: Mascara. Apply generous coats until you're satisfied with the volume and length. 



Step Ten:
Repeat steps 2-9 on the other eye.

Ta-da! The eyes are done. 



Step Eleven:
Apply blush to the apples of your cheeks. 

Step Twelve:
Highlight your cheek bones, tip of your nose, and your Cupid's bow until your glow is so blinding, it could blind (spoiler for ACOMAF) Tam the Tool. 


Step Thirteen:
Apply your liquid lipstick to your lips because you want it to be long lasting, and not come off when you're eating those snacks while reading ACOWAR. 


Now you're done!! Time for the obligatory final look shots!



I hope you enjoyed this makeup look, and maybe actually try it. (Sorry that my instructions suck. It's hard to describe what I'm doing in words.) Also how cute is my penguin sweater? It's from Forever 21 in case you were wondering. 

🌹❤️🌹

So I've Been Away

Tuesday, 31 January 2017
So I guess I'm back from my unofficial hiatus??

Anyway, I hope you had a great holiday season?? (Is that even correct?)

I've been genuinely slacking, and so I missed an entire two months of blogging. I'm sorry. It's been a hectic past couple of months to say the least (had to recover from 2016). But I'm back now and hopefully I'm a little more diligent about blogging this year.

I hope you've all been reading amazing books, and I guess I'll be back on here soon??

The Term "Woke" Is Problematic

Sunday, 4 December 2016
Let's get one thing straight: I am not "woke." No one is. It's impossible to be all-knowing, educated about everything, and basically perfect. We all make mistakes, but that's okay so long as we learn from them.

To call someone "woke" implies that they are super politically correct all the time and never make mistakes ever. As I just mentioned, no one is like that (but many of us strive for that). By referring to yourself as "woke" or to call someone else "woke," you are implying that you/they are perfect and never make mistakes. That you/they have never made any mistakes in terms of political correctness, and have never accidentally said something others would find offensive.

That is why the term is problematic. It is an unattainable idea.

It's turned into a word used to put someone down, more commonly given a negative connotation nowadays. "Oh look she thinks she's so woke but she's problematic." I've been told that, and I've seen people saying that to others as well.

BUT MOST PEOPLE DON'T CALL THEMSELVES "WOKE" BY SAYING THAT YOU ARE IMPLYING THAT IS WHAT THEY THINK, AND YOU ARE MORE THAN LIKELY WRONG.

Most people make too many mistakes to genuinely think they are "woke" because no one is that educated. No one is so aware of everyone else, and so knowledgeable about all the sexualities and races and religions that they are truly "woke."

However, these people are not exactly "asleep." They are trying their best, they are learning everyday, they are educating themselves and are open to being educated. So the term "woke" isn't completely accurate, but it isn't completely inaccurate. These people are sort of in a weird in-between. And there's a spectrum depending on just how educated one person is.

That is why the term is problematic. Because no one is "woke," but many people are trying to be as correct as possible. We need a different term to describe this because "woke" is not cutting it.

So time to think of a new insult, trolls. Also, keep your comments out of my comment section and my notifications. Thanks.

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Books To Boycott: A List of Books That Are Problematic

Monday, 21 November 2016
So I don't care. If you want to support these problematic books, stop and reevaluate your values please. Keep your privilege in check, and use it to speak out against those who wish to oppress minorities.

And if your book made this list, please don't start any drama. I won't be supporting your books, and you'll only make things worse.

The Continent by Kiera Drake

Drake can't even apologize for the racism in her book without throwing her sensitivity readers under the bus. For those of you who missed what happened, Drake got called out on her book (in which she calls the civilization of the Topi people who just so happen to look a lot like Native Americans "uncivilized" and "savage") and things got ugly. And the other civilization? Basically Japanese, only misrepresented. 

And then after getting called out, she says she had sensitivity readers look over her work, and really only apologized because her publicist probably told her to. She came off as insincere, and didn't take enough responsibility.


Yes, I am aware Harlequin pushed it back, but I don't care. It should be pulled completely. If she can't even fully own up to her mistakes, why should we give her book a second chance? 

All of Michael Grant's Books

I'm sorry. Take your able-bodied privilege and gross behaviour elsewhere. 


https://twitter.com/alyssakeiko/status/798994466522746881

I'm done. Never reading another one of his books again. 

Summer on Earth by Peter Thompson

Oh look. Another racist white guy. If you can't see how Thompson is LITERALLY ALIENATING AFRICAN AMERICANS FROM SOCIETY, I can't talk to you anymore. It's disgusting that a publisher cannot see this book as blatantly racist and problematic. I'm sure the MC is white, and basically saying African Americans are foreign and making them the aliens is despicable. African Americans are people too, and deserve to be properly represented. 

And the fact that this is middle grade makes it even worse. Spoon-feeding them racism and hatred is disgusting and Thompson should be ashamed of his book. 

The Cruelty by Scott Bergstrom

How dare you belittle young adult and the amount of talent required to write it, and expect your young adult book to fly off the shelves?! You're a white male whose book follows some basic formula you think is required to produce a bestseller, and I wouldn't be surprised if The Cruelty lacks proper diverse representation. 

Bergstrom is just another problematic white male author. We have enough of those already (see Michael Grant). Do not support him or his book please. Make it flop so hard, he'll wish he kept his mouth shut.



Also, teens are not dumb, so you don't need to dumb down your books. I have yet to meet a teen who couldn't handle The Hunger Games. Teens don't need your book.

#TheHungerGamesDidItBetter

All of Tommy Wallach's Books

Here we have an author that joked about suicide.

How.

Dare.

He.

Suicide is not a joke, and has taken and affected more lives than he will ever know. It's not something to joke about.


And you certainly do not let you mom defend your suicide joke because 1) Take responsibility for your actions and 2) You're a grown man. Don't drag your mom into this.



And you do not threaten to sue anyone who calls you out on your stupid suicide joke that's NOT FUNNY AT ALL AND POTENTIALLY DANGEROUS.


And all this other crap that includes racism, trying to force atheism onto others (extremism isn't okay and if he were a muslim trying to force his religion onto others, he'd be called a terrorist), and just general problematic stuff.





And in case you want a full explanation of what happened, here's the link to a brilliant article written by V. E. Schwab (who writes excellent books by the way): http://www.yabookscentral.com/blog/we-need-to-talk-about-tommy

Carve the Mark by Veronica Roth



I've never read Divergent, and now I don't know if I ever will. Justina Ireland's tweets basically sum this up perfectly. But for those of you who can't see how it's basically dark-skinned people depicted to be trying to destroy white people and how that is a problem, it was the white folks who oppressed PoCs.



And thank you to the booktubers who reviewed this early who apologized for not realizing that it was problematic earlier.

All of Sierra Abrams's Books

Okay but biphobia is sickening and is not okay. This is why I keep the receipts too.




And here's why this is a problem. Yes, queer-baiting is a problem, but ugh. Don't say that my precious Dorian can't be bisexual just because he's only liked women so far in the books. No bisexual or pansexual needs to have relationships with both men and women to prove their sexuality. End of story.

These Racist Abrams Kids Picture Books

These are racist and xenophobic and they make me want to throw up. This is what I mean. http://bookriot.com/2016/12/02/its-not-funny-its-racist/ Stay away from this book.




And then they tried to play the racism off as a problem with censorship. Absolutely. Despicable. 


For the booksellers and librarians reading this list, please do not order these books for your store or library, and promote diverse books like The Girl From Everywhere, Simon vs. the Homosapien Agenda, The Hate U Give, The Gentleman's Guide to Vice and Virtue, History Is All You Left Me, The Sun Is Also a Star, The Love Interest, When Dimple Met Rishi, Dear Martin, or just about any diverse book that does a good, proper job of representing minorities. 

And for those who aren't, go request these books!! Let the publishing industry know you like diversity, and want more of it with your money!!!